I turn 30 in 16 days. The thought of leaving my twenties terrifies me. I feel like I just got the hang of being a twenty-something, and now I’m being forced to enter a new decade where I won’t be able to blame anything on being a “Dumb-20-Something.”
In my twenties I have:
Travelled. I spent my early twenties traveling the world. I explored New Zealand, Argentina, Chili, Ukraine, Austria, Hungary, Mexico, Canada, and the US. I saw parts of the world that were foreign to me. My travels sparked my curiosity and have made me hungry to see more of the world.
Made friends with myself. The only person that I’m stuck with for all my life is me. Life is to short to be living inside a head you can’t stand. I’m perfectly flawed, and that’s why I am unique. I’ve stopped judging myself, and it’s liberating.
Learned to fail, and to fail often. I can not count how many times I have failed, been rejected, or felt stupid after someone or thing made me feel like the most unworthy dweeb in the world. The nasty words and the embarrassment of my failure have left scars in my ego. Each failure has taught me the importance of modesty, resilience, and hard work. Nothing in life comes easy. If you want something, get over yourself and put your heart on the line.
Stopped believing in the fairy tale. By the time I was 30, I had thought I would be married with two kids. I imagined living in my dream home and having a dream career and living a life so sweet Disney Movies would look to me for inspiration. The truth is, nothing in life just dropped off by the stork. If you want something to happen, you have to be willing to make it happen. I’m ready to meet my Mr. Right. I’m putting myself out there, vulnerability and all.
Learned the importance of play. Life is to short to waste away in a constant state of stress, and too long to deny yourself any fun. Some of my biggest creative breakthroughs have been the results of laughing my face off and having fun.
Learned to shut-out that which does not serve me. (To be honest, I’m still working on this, but it’s getting easier every year.) I am happy with my life, I like who I am, I choose to spend time with people I care about, and I refuse to let the dirty baggage of others weigh me down. I’ve cleaned house mentally, socially, and spiritually. Moving forward I choose to live with only things and people whom I love.
I still have a lot to learn. I believe the lessons I learned and the life I lived in my twenties will heed me well as I enter the next chapter of my adult life.